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Your Friday: Be this one.

October 1, 2010

This consciousness is the spirit of guidance of each one. Be this one.

Photos via the NYT.

Here are some things you can do to help.

  • Volunteer. You don’t need special skills. It can be as simple as helping do dishes at a resource center or as involved as mentoring, teaching a class, or manning a phone bank. Your time is more valuable than you think. Volunteer Match can help you find the perfect fit for your skills and availability.
  • Speak up. If you see or hear of something happening. Tell someone. If you can’t tell the people who are doing the bulling find someone else. Keep trying until you find the right person. You don’t have to preach. You don’t have to teach, but we are all responsible for our communities. SPEAK UP.

I’m not going to beat this into the ground. It seems hard and it seems scary and it seems too sad. But it can be as simple as washing a dish or lending an ear. Make choices with love.

7 Comments leave one →
  1. October 1, 2010 12:16 pm

    Yes. I’ll add another; open spaces in your life to youth. We have a couple of teens in my writing group, for example, and local youth activists sometimes use my house for meetings when other spaces aren’t available.

  2. evmaroon permalink
    October 1, 2010 12:58 pm

    I’ve been a mentor for trans youth now for a few years, and sometimes it’s hard to know if or how much I’m helping, but seeing people over time, well heck, they’re doing well now. Not because of me, of course, but because they’re engaged in a support system to help them through difficult people and situations. And I’m honored to be a part of that.

  3. October 1, 2010 1:07 pm

    thanks for this – the bullying deaths have been weighing on my heart a lot this week, it can feel hopeless at times, so it’s good to be reminded of simple steps that might help a little.

  4. October 1, 2010 1:15 pm

    Thank you so much for this, Poplife. The bullying stories have weighed on my heart as well and the way the internet is being used to increase the suffering of these kids is just gut wrenching. Three deaths in a little over two weeks is devastating. And these are merely the ones whose stories are being reported. Mentoring is vital and important and this was a great reminder to those of us who have survived to reach out to others who have lost hope.

  5. October 1, 2010 2:16 pm

    When we see those “bullying” PSAs on television, the problem is they’re right in the same slot as all of the commercials for crap we don’t need and all the rest of whatever they’re trying to sell us, so they sort of blend in to the mix of stuff to ignore until whatever we’re watching comes back on, and that’s a huge problem for this message.

    It’s all too saddening that it takes situations like this, circumstances that could have and should have been avoided to avert these tragedies. I know every time we see a story like this, people always try to use it as a rallying cry, to prevent it from ever happening to another young person. I really hope that is the case this time, because we need all the wonderful people we can find in this world to stay alive and help raise our collective sense of humanity.

    Individually, we have a small impact, but if we use that impact on the friends, relatives, people we encounter, perhaps we can inspire them to do the same with the people they deal with, and extend those nets of caring throughout all of the networks of people… we have to start somewhere, and start doing something. Right here, right now.

  6. IrishUp permalink
    October 1, 2010 3:34 pm

    With the ht going to neo-prodigy, I’ll take this space to signal-boost the We Got Your Back Project.

    My choice is to try to support organizations with their genesis from within (affected and marginalized) communities, rather than Outside Savior type models. There are lots of ways that Well Meaning Conforming People screw it up when it comes to reaching out – NYCPenpusher’s PSAs are prime examples. The people who are best positioned to understand what helps are the people who need the help, so I feel like this is the best way to ensure that what I have to give has the best effect possible.

    Thanks for this post, poplife.

  7. October 1, 2010 8:21 pm

    Poor kids. It’s awful how people can be so callous to the suffering of others.

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